Other names: Romantic, Artist, Melancholic, Uniqueness, Aesthetic.
Life Strategy: Compare yourself to other people and strive for uniqueness.
Type 4 people are the most sensitive. Every detail, from the original clothes to the mysterious smile, emphasizes their individuality, uniqueness and exclusivity. Their inner world is full of feelings that need to be expressed. And that helps 4s become genius creators. They like to delve into their own and other people’s experiences, the inner world.
A gentle voice, dramatizing words, does not complete sentences, “reads thoughts”. Often sighs, blushes, shrunken, sad tired face, hidden emotionality. There is a feeling of hopelessness and sadness in communication. Desire to support, help or cheer.
I’m not like everyone else. Something is wrong with me. 4 lifetimes trying to figure out who they really are, who they are here for. When trying to find answers, compare yourself to other people. It seems to them that other people’s lives are simpler, easier, and they have not been given a recipe for happiness. He identifies himself with feelings and strives to express them as much as possible, but those around him do not always withstand such bursts of emotion.
What I need is in the outside world. The 4s constantly feel that they are missing something very important. They strive for ideality, for their own fullness. Lost in themselves, they try to find something on the outside to complement and support them.
Better to die than to live a gray life. The intensity of experiences is very important for 4 people. For it are ready to sacrifice their happiness, security, amenities. A calm, stable life causes longing, depression, from which one tries to be guided by external stimuli. Only strong emotions make them alive, increase creativity
Self-criticism. Any phrase said to 4 can trigger a mechanism of inner criticism that transitions to self-destruction, a diminution of personal values. This affects the low self-esteem of 4-year-olds and their tendency to depression. On the other hand, self-criticism encourages improvement, the pursuit of recognition. They desperately need the attention of those around them, but are often timid due to increased self-criticism.
Type 4 stress and comfort.
Stress / Comfort:
To 2 (Assistant): Changes the focus from himself to other people, tries to please them, meets their needs.
To 1 (Perfectionist): Becomes more rational, focuses on tasks, decisions. Feelings go into the background. Adapts your uniqueness in finding solutions and achieving goals.
Get rid of the habit of underestimating yourself and underestimating your life, learning to see the positive aspects.
To legalize anger, sadness and other negative feelings and their expression – to develop adequacy.
Integrate the positive into your image, and not project your inner critic into other people.
Develop independence and functionality – restore contact with your strength.
Sensitive and deep people. Knows how to express oneself through creativity, can inspire and influence others. These are the traits of good writers, journalists, teachers. Able to delve into other people’s problems, so it would be great psychologists, consultants. Dreaming of creating something of your own, unique and valuable.
Very creative, striving for exclusivity. Careful for details. Perfectionists. Fully surrenders to the idea, to a higher purpose. Looking for non-standard solutions. Avoids simple, operational work. Mood swings are possible, on which efficiency depends.
The most important thing is for each child to understand, discover their inner world and have the opportunity to express it. Accepts all emotions, fantasies and dreams with love and patience. The authenticity of the child is a great value, even if the rest of the world does not yet understand it.
4s are very special children. They are usually not interested in everyday things such as food, order, lessons, so many may seem self-reliant or distracted. But they are interested in everything that is unique, rare, stimulates fantasy. They are then very involved, able to create their own exclusive masterpiece for a long time and carefully. Warm and friendly, but shy and therefore often feels lonely.
4w3 – Aristocrat. He wants other people to admire their creativity and uniqueness. Seeks recognition. Balancing creative freedom with professional ambition can lead to internal conflicts. Egocentric, expressive, competitive. Perfectionists.
4w5 – Bohema. Introverted, eccentric, seeking uniqueness and depth of emotion can plunge into the dark side of life. The mind strengthens emotions, experiences, loves the world of fantasies. Concentrated on yourself.
Self-defense instinct – Endurance. They learned to live with pain, endure and absorb all negative emotions. Wants to look strong and not complaining. Anyway, they are very sensitive inside, but try to distance themselves from the feelings, not to show others, and not to communicate if necessary. He knows that people have a hard time withstanding their depressive emotions, so even in sadness they try to smile and radiate a good mood. They are very empathetic, able to support, sympathize with all those who suffer. (Contrast type)
Sexual Instinct – Competition. Expresses your feelings and needs quite openly and clearly. Demanding, persistent and competitive. Aims to be the best in the realm that matters to them, thus avoiding feelings of suffering and dissatisfaction. Don’t be ashamed to ask what they need or complain if they don’t get something. If someone ignores their needs, a cycle of rejection, frustration, and anger can begin. In fact, he often masks sadness and confusion with his expressed anger.
Social instinct – Shame. He often doubts himself, feels inadequate, successful, blames himself. Trying to understand what they really are and why. Feels a strong sense of jealousy and shame because they are not like others. They usually feel like something is missing, the lack of something seems to be insufficient. They find solace in suffering and express it to others, often attracting the support and or even admiration of others. Focuses on emotions and emotional state in all situations.
Famous people and characters:
Ingmar Bergman, Bjork, Cate Blanchett, Kate Bush, Nicolas Cage, Maria Callas, Prince Charles, Eric Clapton, Cheryl Crow, Johnny Depp, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Bob Dylan, Hermann Hesse, Michael Jackson, Angelina Jolie, John Malkovich, Marilyn Manson, Michaelangelo, Alanis Morrisette, Gary Oldman, Edith Piaf, Natalie Portman, Prince, Winona Ryder, Dusty Springfield, Vincent Van Gogh, Oscar Wilde, Kate Winslet, Virginia Woolf, Pero.