Enneagram types

Beliefs:

I know what is right. 1s improve themselves more than anyone else so they are convinced that their perception of reality is the most accurate and their opinions and views are the most correct. This belief allows one to be confident, to take a leadership or even reformer position in various spheres of life. However, it also has a negative effect, due to an overly critical approach to a different view.

If you can’t do something perfectly, don’t do it at all. The pursuit of perfection makes 1s real professionals in their work. They delve into the slightest nuances, very carefully meet all the requirements. However, due to the pursuit of excessive perfection, it can be difficult for them to complete the work as new nuances continue to emerge.

Rational people should not express destructive feelings. In order to be perfect, 1s carefully control what and how they speak, how they appear against other people, and are convinced that the open expression of emotions (especially anger) is a sign of immaturity and irrationality. This belief forces them to oppress and accumulate negative emotions.

Risk:

Internal critic. In order to improve and correct the world, the 1s themselves must be perfect. They have a highly developed Inner Critic – the wiser part of the personality responsible for ensuring that the 1 do not get lost in the true path. That voice is a reminder of the importance of adhering to principles and the need to deserve pleasure and relaxation. The inner critic does not allow them to relax and at the same time express emotions freely.

Type 1 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 4 (Individualist): Faces overwhelmed negative emotions, begins to feel sorry for himself, understands that right behavior is not a guarantee that they will be respected.

To 7 (Enthusiast): Get out of control and enjoy diving into fun and complete relaxation.

Personal improvement:

Understand the oppressed negative feelings and allow yourself to express them.
Understand your real needs and meet them.
Integration of Vidin’s decomposition into “good self” and “bad self”.
Work:

Highly organized, always completes tasks, works efficiently and professionally. It is important to them that the tasks and rules are clear and logical. Morality and ethics are very important. Analytical 1s are indispensable in areas such as law, research, finance. People-oriented 1s reveal themselves in medicine, education, and religion.

Leadership:

Loves discipline, formalities, follows hierarchy. Notices flaws and errors, quality is very important. Not willing to take risks. Makes thoughtful and time-tested decisions. There may be a lack of creativity. It is difficult to delegate work.

Parenting:

Very responsible, strives to be perfect parents and raise perfect children. So you will make sure you eat healthily, study well, be hardworking, responsible and tidy. Praise and encourage for all efforts and merits.

Childhood:

1s are like small adult copies. They often interact with their peers like teachers, constantly teaching and educating them about wrongdoing. Do not shy away and complain to adults. They are quite serious and have to do everything perfectly, without mistakes. So homework is a very serious thing where the slightest failure or lack of time can cause a lot of stress. They follow the rules of kindergarten, school and family.

Wings:

1w9 – Idealist. Focuses on theory, idealism, perfection in the name of peace and truth. Introverted, stubborn, confident in righteousness. Curious, striving for the ideal, but less inclined to action.

1w2 – Lawyer. Trying to help, teach, even please, that everything is done right. More eloquent, more prone to communication and action. Loves to preach, can put pressure.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Anxiety. Very strong internal criticism and increased sense of responsibility. Lots of demands on himself, sees shortcomings, tries to anticipate risks and problems. Wants to be prepared and do everything perfectly down to the smallest detail. Avoids expressing anger, often underestimates or is disappointed in himself.

Sexual instinct – Zeal. People of this subtype stand out from others because of their intensity and impact on others. They focus less on improving their behavior and more on whether others are behaving correctly. It has its own view of how things should be and feels entitled to reform people or society. Can openly express anger and frustration. (Contrast type)

Social instinct – Morality. Stand out from others with strong self-control and high standards, living by morals and values. He takes full care of himself and tries to help others become perfect. He sees himself in the role of a teacher, an educator. Always pay attention to what is good, fair and appropriate, set an example of honesty and principled behavior.

Famous people and characters:

Hillary Clinton, Confucius, Harrison Ford, Jodie Foster, Katharine Hepburn, Martin Luther, Immanuel Kant, Nelson Mandela, Eleanor Roosevelt, George Bernard Shaw, Martha Stewart, Meryl Streep, Peter Strauss, Margaret Thatcher, Emma Thompson, Harry Truman, Mary Poppins.

Beliefs:

Other people’s needs are more important than personal. 2s are overly responsive to other people’s needs. Because of his sensitivity and empathy, he knows how to support and help during difficult times. By caring for the other 2, they get recognition and respect, and feel partially contributed to those people’s happiness, success.

Taking care of yourself is selfish and selfish. The 2 are sure that others will love them only if they are constantly cared for and supported. By giving up their needs and sacrificing them for the benefit of other people, the 2 expect to receive gratitude and praise, which makes them feel needed and happy.

I am valuable only when I help others. This belief encourages 2 to meet the needs of other people to the maximum, as this is how they maintain their own value. The thought of being valued in other ways causes 2 people to fear that they may then have to deal with their own emotions and such a huge flow of their own needs that it will be impossible to fulfill them.

Risk:

Addiction. In order to become irreplaceable, to make other people dependent on their help, the 2 themselves become dependent on appreciation and gratitude. You can avoid ending a worthless relationship on the grounds that your partner will not survive without them, when in fact it is the 2 people who make a sense of worth. They can even manipulate, demonstratively assuming the role of a martyr. Thus, behind conscious altruism, there is often a subconscious need for gratitude and recognition.

Type 2 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 8 (Boss): Begins to realize their needs, blames loved ones for being exploited, may demand and threaten to stop worrying.

To 4 (Individualist): Relaxes, devotes time to self-realization, creativity, self-interests.

Personal improvement:

Understand your needs. And especially the need for love and acceptance.
Learn to ask for and accept help and care.
Develop independence, i. the ability to take care of oneself without using a ‘give to receive’ strategy.
Learn to stay in touch with yourself and your needs, even when you are in a relationship with other people.
Work:

Loves working with people, focusing on others. The service area is most suitable where you could help, advise, improve and make other people’s lives easier. Can be very dedicated teachers, medical staff. Extroverted 2s aim to delight as many people as possible, so they can choose public professions such as acting or oratorio.

Leadership:

Very hardworking, energetic, experts in their field. Great organizers. Assembles a team, pays attention to everyone. People-oriented, avoids direct confrontation, prone to compromise. Scattered between jobs, possible difficulties with deadlines. Can ignore problems.

Parenting:

He will hug, fall in love every time he sees it and more often. Make sure everyone is full, warmly dressed and happy. Embraces all children and loved ones with loving words, small gifts and care.

Childhood:

2-year-olds are very cute, likeable, smiling children. They need companionship, trying to help both adults and peers. If you see something sad, be sure to comfort. The relationship is very important to them, so they react very sensitively if someone gets angry at them or says a tougher word. These are very trustworthy children who seek more to serve others than to think about the consequences.

Wings:

2w1 – Helper. Proud to help others, inclined to sacrifice. Sensitive, but tries not to show it and ignore their own needs. Morality is important, strong beliefs. More introverted and self-critical.

2w3 – Host. Gets attention by making connections, communicating, giving help. Active, extroverted, able to present themselves, watch people to be useful. They know more about what they want and do it in different ways.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Privilege. Very cute, shy, charming, a little childish, so it arouses the unconscious desire of others to take care of them. He expects privileges and exceptional attention, but doesn’t want to depend on anything. Attracts other people not with help or care for them, but with charm and playfulness. Afraid of being rejected and hurt, wants long-term commitments, guarantees and confirmations of their constant importance. (Contrast type)

Sexual Instinct – Seduction. Emphasizes your personal appeal, is emotional and passionate. It mobilizes all its energy, charm, and seductive talent to seduce specific individuals or form relationships. Strives to become irreplaceable. Only in close relationships, trusting and feeling assured expresses your needs more clearly. They are willing, adaptable and active, find it difficult to feel the boundaries and are sensitive to any refusal or rejection of their help.

Social instinct – Ambition. She uses her glamor talents intellectually and focuses on a larger audience, seeking to attract groups, communities or organizations. They stand out from the crowd, often taking on a lead or leadership role, thus consolidating its value. Enjoys being recognized, influencing a growing group of people with their connections and competencies. Tends to overestimate your strength and amount of energy. Often it is a strategy to escape from unpleasant feelings or your unmet needs.

Famous people and characters:

Brigitte Bardot, Naomi Cambell, Kim Cattrall, Glenn Close, Bill Cosby, Courtney Cox, Diana-Princess of Wales, Celine Dion, Melanie Griffith, Whitney Houston, Jesus Christ, Monica Lewinsky, Yoko Ono, Eva Peron, Priscilla Presley, Mother Teresa , Ivana Trump.

Beliefs:

There is nothing impossible. 3-believers believe that life is full of all kinds of possibilities, and to achieve absolutely everything, you just need a lot of effort and a lot of work. And surely this belief helps them achieve incredible success. Often reaches career heights.

I am very efficient, my possibilities are endless. Workaholics delve into ever new areas of life, as long as it helps them achieve their goals and gives up what hinders. Does not delve into insignificant details. Adapts to any situation to get the most out of it. They value their time because it is the only resource they may be short of.

Meets by clothes. It is very important to make an impression of a successful person. They instinctively feel in some environment how to behave. It’s like casual, but it boasts of branded clothes, a luxury watch or a car. Loves to give expensive gifts.

Risk:

Masks and roles. The 3s are more focused on their image than the other types. They try to show themselves on the best side by hiding flaws. They quickly identify the environment they need to be in and adapt flexibly. But by constantly adapting to other people and situations, 3s risk forgetting their values. They don’t express their true emotions, hide them behind the mask of a successful person, or even become so involved that it becomes like a new identification. Even for loved ones, it is difficult to see the true personality, making maintaining a close relationship very difficult. Despite admiration and luck, 3s can feel lonely. Relationships become as superficial and uncertain as the resulting image.

Type 3 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 9 (Magician): No more prioritizing, losing efficiency, everything seems pointless.

To 6 (Skeptic / Loyalist): Decreases the pace, reviews your life and thinks to whom all those accomplishments.

Personal improvement:

Understand your feelings and desires, allow yourself to feel and express them.
Understand the connection between your success and your unmet need for love and acceptance.
Legalize negative feelings about other important people, which allows you to distance yourself from their expectations.
Restore your natural right to love and acceptance.
Work:

Focus on goal achievement, determined, organized, prone to workaholism. Performs all work quickly, responsibly and seeks evaluation. Wants to be a leader in the field in which you work, whether it’s business, politics, or the arts. Can be both flexible and domineering. The more aid-oriented 3 choose social services, health or training.

Leadership:

Energetic, able to inspire others. Perfectly adapts to different situations and people. For workaholics. Expect the same from others. What matters is the result, not the process or details. Personal ambitions and image are more important than common goals or relationships.

Parenting:

It will try to make the child see a great example of how everything in life can be achieved, combine different activities and enjoy a meaningful life. Take care, motivate and enable your children to achieve goals and make dreams a reality.

Childhood:

The 3s are very active, always busy, keeping up and learning well and attending a few clubs. Everywhere he strives to be successful, noticeable, with the right hand of the teacher, the elder and forerunner of the class, so as not to disappoint anything. These are precisely those children who are built on a bed and expressive poems so that aunts, uncles and of course parents are proud of him. Tends to lie a little or embellish the information.

Wings:

3w2 – Star. Seeks to admire them for personal accomplishments. Extroverted, likes to be the center of attention, gets involved in various activities, is interested in many things. Perfectly motivates others, beautifies events. He looks very open, but is really reluctant to show his true face.

3w4 – Professional. Judge your value by achievement, especially in your career. For workaholics. Feels inner shame and doubts about its worth. More introverted, analyzes your feelings. Adapts to the environment.

Instincts:

Self-protection instinct – Security. These are reliable, efficient and productive people. Aims to provide material security for himself and others. Wants to be good and look good, but does not like to openly advertise their strengths and achievements, avoids being judged on image. Nevertheless, it is important that they be recognized for their hard work, effort and excellence. There is a risk that their quest for safety and independence in hard work may shift to workaholism. (Contrast type)

Sexual instinct – Charisma. Charismatic and enthusiastic, focuses on maintaining an image that others like. They tend to compete for the attention and love of important people. Can suppress your own feelings to become more valuable and attractive to those around you. The social status and material status of the people with whom they interact are important to them. Work harder to support others than your own success. They tend to think that if the people around them are successful, so are they are the same.

Social instinct – Prestige. Highly competitive, enjoying success and being in the spotlight. Their greatest desire is to be successful, meaningful, and influential. Perfectly adapts to all requirements and social norms, tries to look flawless. To look good and successful, can beautify facts or disguise failures. It confidently sells its ideas, demonstrates achievements and maintains the image it has created. Climbs the career ladder quickly.

Famous people and characters:

Muhammad Ali, Halle Berry, Tony Blair, David Bowie, Bill Clinton, David Copperfield, Cindy Crawford, Tom Cruise, Jamie Lee Curtis, Alain Delon, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Julio Iglesias, Michael Jordan, Lady GaGa, Carl Lewis, Andrew Lloyd Webber, Paul McCartney, Madonna, Demi Moore, Elvis Presley, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Wesley Snipes, Sylvester Stallone, Sting, Sharon Stone, Jean-Claude Van Damme, Robert Wagner, Vanessa Williams, Oprah Winfrey.

Beliefs:

I’m not like everyone else. Something is wrong with me. 4 lifetimes trying to figure out who they really are, who they are here for. When trying to find answers, compare yourself to other people. It seems to them that other people’s lives are simpler, easier, and they have not been given a recipe for happiness. He identifies himself with feelings and strives to express them as much as possible, but those around him do not always withstand such bursts of emotion.

What I need is in the outside world. The 4s constantly feel that they are missing something very important. They strive for ideality, for their own fullness. Lost in themselves, they try to find something on the outside to complement and support them.

Better to die than to live a gray life. The intensity of experiences is very important for 4 people. For it are ready to sacrifice their happiness, security, amenities. A calm, stable life causes longing, depression, from which one tries to be guided by external stimuli. Only strong emotions make them alive, increase creativity

Risk:

Self-criticism. Any phrase said to 4 can trigger a mechanism of inner criticism that transitions to self-destruction, a diminution of personal values. This affects the low self-esteem of 4-year-olds and their tendency to depression. On the other hand, self-criticism encourages improvement, the pursuit of recognition. They desperately need the attention of those around them, but are often timid due to increased self-criticism.

Type 4 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 2 (Assistant): Changes the focus from himself to other people, tries to please them, meets their needs.

To 1 (Perfectionist): Becomes more rational, focuses on tasks, decisions. Feelings go into the background. Adapts your uniqueness in finding solutions and achieving goals.

Personal improvement:

Get rid of the habit of underestimating yourself and underestimating your life, learning to see the positive aspects.
To legalize anger, sadness and other negative feelings and their expression – to develop adequacy.
Integrate the positive into your image, and not project your inner critic into other people.
Develop independence and functionality – restore contact with your strength.
Work:

Sensitive and deep people. Knows how to express oneself through creativity, can inspire and influence others. These are the traits of good writers, journalists, teachers. Able to delve into other people’s problems, so it would be great psychologists, consultants. Dreaming of creating something of your own, unique and valuable.

Leadership:

Very creative, striving for exclusivity. Careful for details. Perfectionists. Fully surrenders to the idea, to a higher purpose. Looking for non-standard solutions. Avoids simple, operational work. Mood swings are possible, on which efficiency depends.

Parenting:

The most important thing is for each child to understand, discover their inner world and have the opportunity to express it. Accepts all emotions, fantasies and dreams with love and patience. The authenticity of the child is a great value, even if the rest of the world does not yet understand it.

Childhood:

4s are very special children. They are usually not interested in everyday things such as food, order, lessons, so many may seem self-reliant or distracted. But they are interested in everything that is unique, rare, stimulates fantasy. They are then very involved, able to create their own exclusive masterpiece for a long time and carefully. Warm and friendly, but shy and therefore often feels lonely.

Wings:

4w3 – Aristocrat. He wants other people to admire their creativity and uniqueness. Seeks recognition. Balancing creative freedom with professional ambition can lead to internal conflicts. Egocentric, expressive, competitive. Perfectionists.

4w5 – Bohema. Introverted, eccentric, seeking uniqueness and depth of emotion can plunge into the dark side of life. The mind strengthens emotions, experiences, loves the world of fantasies. Concentrated on yourself.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Endurance. They learned to live with pain, endure and absorb all negative emotions. Wants to look strong and not complaining. Anyway, they are very sensitive inside, but try to distance themselves from the feelings, not to show others, and not to communicate if necessary. He knows that people have a hard time withstanding their depressive emotions, so even in sadness they try to smile and radiate a good mood. They are very empathetic, able to support, sympathize with all those who suffer. (Contrast type)

Sexual Instinct – Competition. Expresses your feelings and needs quite openly and clearly. Demanding, persistent and competitive. Aims to be the best in the realm that matters to them, thus avoiding feelings of suffering and dissatisfaction. Don’t be ashamed to ask what they need or complain if they don’t get something. If someone ignores their needs, a cycle of rejection, frustration, and anger can begin. In fact, he often masks sadness and confusion with his expressed anger.

Social instinct – Shame. He often doubts himself, feels inadequate, successful, blames himself. Trying to understand what they really are and why. Feels a strong sense of jealousy and shame because they are not like others. They usually feel like something is missing, the lack of something seems to be insufficient. They find solace in suffering and express it to others, often attracting the support and or even admiration of others. Focuses on emotions and emotional state in all situations.

Famous people and characters:

Ingmar Bergman, Bjork, Cate Blanchett, Kate Bush, Nicolas Cage, Maria Callas, Prince Charles, Eric Clapton, Cheryl Crow, Johnny Depp, Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Bob Dylan, Hermann Hesse, Michael Jackson, Angelina Jolie, John Malkovich, Marilyn Manson, Michaelangelo, Alanis Morrisette, Gary Oldman, Edith Piaf, Natalie Portman, Prince, Winona Ryder, Dusty Springfield, Vincent Van Gogh, Oscar Wilde, Kate Winslet, Virginia Woolf, Pero.

Beliefs:

The world around us is dangerous. Fear of the outside world encourages 5 people to gather information. They are intimidated by the unknown, so they try to discover a system that will help them understand how the world works and anticipate possible changes. I really don’t like surprises and surprises (even pleasant ones). I prefer to watch events from a distance rather than going into contact.

The mind is the only objective source, and feelings are erratic and subjective.5 people dissociate from their feelings, trying to evaluate them objectively. Distrustful also reacts to other people’s emotions, so those around them seem closed, insensitive. Indeed so if you protect your vulnerability. Only the greatest possible amount of information, planning and avoiding potential problems help to feel more confident.

Resources are limited, they may not be enough. Because of this belief, they tend to distance themselves from the environment, accumulate and store resources, information, energy. Try to get as much out of the environment as possible without wasting your energy.

Risk:

Independence. The need for security encourages 5 to minimize contact with the world around them. They think that the less something is expected of other people, the less will be expected of him. He likes to be with himself, in his reflections. Independence is more important to them than material things, so physical needs are very modest, they do not care about social status. This feature allows you to take the strangest ideas and lead to new discoveries.

Type 5 for stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 7 (Enthusiast): Begins to look for simple, superficial solutions, becomes more extraverted.

To 8 (Boss): Feels an influx of forces, becomes more spontaneous, more confident, more determined. Draws attention to bodily sensations, expresses feelings.

Personal improvement:

Understand and integrate dissociated feelings, express them.
Recognize your needs in relationships with people, increase empathy in relationships.
Recognize your needs and desires, allow yourself to want to.
Restore the relationship with your strength (express anger) and cultivate spontaneity.
Work:

Loves to work individually. Has strong analytical skills, finds solutions to problems. The most suitable fields are science, technology, finance, etc. More creative 5s can be great writers, music makers. Guided by facts, not emotions.

Leadership:

Excellent analysts, collects and structures information. All decisions are logical, based on facts, not emotions. Works independently and autonomously. Consistent. He values ​​his time and does not want to waste it on the needs of others. Does not join the team.

Parenting:

Prepare for parenting as needed, gather all the necessary information and prepare the best set of care, closeness, conversations and lessons for their children. A child is an equal person to them who only needs more care and advice for the time being.

Childhood:

The 5 are the real Why. They have a lot of questions, but not necessarily a lot of questions (at least not for everyone). They usually analyze themselves, go deeper. They are not interested in what is obvious, but how everything works and why, so you can ask questions that you will not have answers to. They always want reference books, sophisticated constructors, or the latest technology. Personal space is important, so you feel completely comfortable being alone.

Wings:

5w4 – Philosopher. Curious, intellectuals, have a vision of perfection, seek to discover and express it. Difficult to adapt in real life. More emotional, creative, independent lonely. Creativity is more important than science.

5w6 – Solvent. Logical, practical, seeks to understand everything. Worried about what he doesn’t know. In addition to emotions, security is provided by knowledge. Seeks universal truth, knows how to argue, can be rude and stubborn.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Fortress. They are most comfortable living alone, interacting with just a few friends or like-minded people. Sets clear boundaries and thus secures private space. They prefer to observe social life than to participate in it. Focuses on maintaining necessary resources and reducing needs. They are usually real introverts, afraid of losing their privacy and, at the same time, a sense of security.

Sexual Instinct – Confidence. Under certain conditions, there is a greater need to keep in touch with other people. They enjoy relationship, trust, openness, feel passion, and experience emotions, although they don’t necessarily show it on the outside. Allow yourself to take risks, be more open and vibrant, test your partner loyalty. It can even be romantic and express it in some artistic form. (Contrast type)

Social Instinct – Wisdom. The most important thing is knowledge and wisdom, looking for meaning, focusing on issues that are important to them. It is gratifying to become experts in specific areas of interest to them. They may be more concerned with people they interact with for social reasons or specific interests than with people in their immediate environment in their daily lives. It is easier to share knowledge, ideas than personal time, space or feelings.

Famous people and characters:

Tim Burton, Nick Cave, Agatha Christie, Charles Darwin, Robert DeNiro, René Descartes, Albert Einstein, Greta Garbo, Bill Gates, Alfred Hitchcock, Anthony Hopkins, Franz Kafka, Stanley Kubrick, David Lynch, “Fox Mulder” (X-Files) , Isaac Newton, Al Pacino, Keanu Reeves, John D. Rockefeller, Nikola Tesla, Jules Verne, Max Von Sydow, Lars Von Trier.

Beliefs:

Nothing can be assured. 6 cannot tolerate the “black / white” rating. The more categorical someone’s opinion is, the more doubt it raises. There is a strong impulse to oppose it, to look for shortcomings and alternatives. Because they themselves do not have their own firm position, and always feel insecure, it tries to undermine other people’s trust as well.

Before making a decision, it is necessary to analyze all the consequences, especially the negative ones. It could be considered pessimism, but 6 consider it realism. The more responsible the decision, the more doubts arise. When making a decision, they consider all the negative consequences, and if they still decide to act, they take all the precautions. It is as if an X-ray sees people’s secret or subconscious motives.

I am a loyal friend if I trust him. They can maintain friendship from childhood, be very faithful for a lifetime, but friends have to go through many trials to gain confidence. Defends your own or weaker. They tend to sacrifice for justice and equality.

Risk:

Authorities. A complex and controversial relationship with authorities. 6-lacks lack faith in the world and in themselves, which encourages them to look for something they can trust. But he also realizes that power and authority can be exercised, so he wants to break free from it and strengthen self-confidence. Can fight, rebel against established ideologies, rules.

Type 6 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 3 (Reacher): Begins to be active, although not sure about the consequences.

To 9 (Magician): Becomes more open, more relaxed, stops analyzing and checking everything. Discoveres a connection with your own and other people’s feelings.

Personal improvement:

Work with childhood fears associated with punishments and fears of losing support.
Understand the mechanism of transfer of responsibility and return to life responsibility.
Get rid of dependence on external security sources, develop independence.
Develop the courage to live.
Work:

Almost all jobs are suitable, because they know how to adjust, be a member of the team, do not commit to leadership, obey the authorities. Dedicated to a higher goal, they are happy to choose the field of law enforcement, medicine or education. Controphobic 6s tend to take risks, rebelling against universal authorities.

Leadership:

Team players. A common goal is more important than personal ambition. Good analysts, delves into and presents objective conclusions. Loves clear procedures. Can be very supportive or very critical. Avoiding risk can stop change.

Parenting:

These parents will make sure the child is safe and instructed in how to handle all aspects of life. Kids attend sports clubs to be strong, lessons to be smart, and play games to be happy. And common rituals and traditions strengthen the connection.

Childhood:

The 6 have a lot of fears. They are worried about any changes or new, unknown situations. They are afraid of the fear itself, i. afraid of being afraid and trying in every way to avoid or defeat her. So even the little sixes are of two types: some are shy, timid, and others seem fearless or even aggressive. Either way, they just want to feel safer. They usually try to adapt, be a favorite member of the group or class, but don’t turn into leaders.

Wings:

6w5 – Defender. Seeks security by investing in relationships with authoritative people or a group. Has strong beliefs. Engages in activities of interest. Can be aggressive for the sake of purpose. Honesty and loyalty are very important. Skeptical, self-controlling introverts.

6w7 – Buddy. Maintains close relationships, is fun to reduce fears and mistrust. Kind, loyal, willing to sacrifice important people, adapt. Extroverted, more distracted, delaying.

Instincts:

Self-protection instinct – Heat. Has a lot of fears, avoids risk and change. To feel safe, they build strong relationships with others, seeking outside support, loyal to the authorities. They are cute, sincere and communicate with everyone in a friendly way. Fear of conflicts, so they are prone to express their opinions, suppress anger.

Sexual Instinct – Intimidation. These are controphobic people with the belief that the best defense is an attack. They are very reluctant to be afraid, so they try to overcome all real and imagined fears and threats. Sometimes you don’t even recognize your doubts or vulnerabilities anymore. Trying to look strong, intimidating. Tend to rebel, provoke authority. (Contrast type)

Social Instinct – Duty. Highly rational and responsible, they strive to encourage adherence to rules or collective norms and to ensure that everyone knows what is expected of them. Trust is not in specific authorities, but in a particular system or idea. Social ideals are important to them, tending to help and fight for the weak. Quite categorical, precise, careful, divides everything into black and white.

Famous people and characters:

Woody Allen, Jane Fonda, Mel Gibson, Hugh Grant, Che Guevara, Tom Hanks, Dustin Hoffman, Tommy Lee Jones, Diane Keaton, Robert Kennedy, Paul Newman, Chuck Norris, Julia Roberts, Rene Russo, Meg Ryan, Steven Seagal, Bruce Springsteen, Patrick Swayze.

Beliefs:

My dreams are more interesting than reality. 7 love to dream. They like to tell about their weirdest plans so picturesquely that they look really real. The pictures in the minds of 7-year-olds are so realistic that there is no need to implement them anymore. The planning itself is satisfying, so many of the plans remain unimplemented.

A world full of pleasures. 7s think life is too short to waste thoughts of discomfort. They seem to filter out bad events from their lives, or try to see the good sides. They try to be in a good mood and entertain those around them. Perfectly understands your needs and does not hesitate to ask.

It’s better to know about everything little by little than about something one deep. The 7s have no patience. They are quickly bored with the same activities, they rarely delve into something because new ideas and opportunities are constantly on the horizon. Others see them as superficial, and call themselves broad-minded people.

Risk:

Pleasures. The most important thing in life is to be happy, to experience as many pleasures as possible. But after a fast pace of life, full of new impressions, lies the fear of encountering a real reality that can collapse like an avalanche of unpleasant experiences, worthless relationships, and feelings of emptiness. Working is also a source of pleasure for them, but although the interests and breadth are broad, knowledge is often superficial and limited, which hampers successful implementation. Avoids any obligation due to the need for freedom.

Type 7 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 1 (Perfectionist): There is an inner critic, there is a restriction of freedom, but it helps to complete the work.

To 5 (Observer): Calms down, plans gain concreteness, potential for realization. Immerses oneself in reflections, enjoys intellectual conversations.

Personal improvement:

Accept and integrate your negative feelings.
Learning to be in a state of frustration.
Develop empathy and involvement in relationships, build intimacy.
Work:

Loves versatile work with lots of action and new experiences. Tends to work or participate in multiple projects at once. Dislikes restrictions and regulated work. Full of energy, thinks and acts fast. Because of their charisma, they can be good teachers, consultants.

Leadership:

Very energetic, lots of interests and ideas. Can persuade. Feel free to meet people of all ranks. The search for ideas and theoretical possibilities is more important than their implementation. Quickly loses interest. He knows how to get around the rules, to extend them to himself.

Parenting:

Both childhood and parenthood need to be happy. In their opinion, the best thing parents can do is not to hinder a child’s growth, show and let them know the world. It is not worth emphasizing failures, because even after stumbling, you can laugh and move on.

Childhood:

7 are the most active children. They absolutely can’t get stuck on the spot and come up with all sorts of entertainment. You could have fun all day with your friends, engaging them in endless adventures. The hardest part is for them to stay calm, especially at school. However, they know how to brighten the mood for themselves and their friends with various jokes and jokes. The only problem is that the teachers are not very happy with that and keep writing comments.

Wings:

7w6 – Initiators. Pleasant, energetic, volatile imaginations. Has a great sense of humor. The feeling of insecurity is suppressed by various activities and entertainment. Focuses on positivity. Collaborative, more relationship-oriented.

7w8 – Realists. Focus on success. Achieve goals in a way that is pleasing to them. Wants to have power. Confident. Can be impatient, even aggressive. Generous, good friends, ready to help.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Relationships. Perfect for knitting acquaintances, useful contacts, attracts sponsors. They are very practical. Quickly notices opportunities, is pragmatic, plans everything and employs everyone around. Loves to do something useful for himself and others. But the most important thing for them is to live well, comfortably, interestingly. Want to have fun, but at the same time feel safe.

Sexual instinct – Charm. Dreamers, idealists and romantics. Extremely enthusiastic and optimistic. They tend to beautify reality and see it the way they want to, not necessarily what they really are. Their enthusiasm and optimism may seem strange or naive because they tend to believe in the goodness of everyone and everything. It is important to them that the world is not gloomy and boring. This is also true in love. They don’t like it when a relationship becomes boring and predictable.

Social Instinct – Sacrifice. They are good, generous, helpful, to create a better world. Donate your needs to meet the needs of other people or groups. At the same time, he hopes that one way or another, this sacrifice will be appreciated. They do not want to be seen as selfish egoists interested only in themselves. Takes responsibility for the people who matter to them. Interested in everything that goes on around, values ​​friendship and loyalty. (Contrast type)

Famous people and characters:

Antonio Banderas, Pierre Cardin, Jackie Chan, George Clooney, Francis Ford Coppola, Salvador Dali, Leonardo DaVinci, Cameron Diaz, Leonardo DiCaprio, Thomas Edison, Whoopie Goldberg, Elton John, Jude Law, Eddie Murphy, Jack Nicholson, Martin Scorsese, Britney Spears, Steven Spielberg, Rod Stewart, Barbra Streisand, Elizabeth Taylor, Tina Turner, Catherine Zeta-Jones, Carlson.

Beliefs:

Everything in life needs to be fought for. The 8s are always in “military readiness.” Struggles for their desires, beliefs, territory. Believes that it is not possible to release control from hands so that they are not used. You need to be strong to withstand any blows of life. Takes the initiative and responsibility. At the same time, however, he is convinced that someone else is to blame for all the failures.

People are divided into strong and weak. The thinking of the 8s is very categorical, they only exist in black and white. On the one hand, such thinking helps to make decisions, because it has clear and unambiguous guidelines, but on the other hand, it does not allow to understand a different opinion, different strategies. The only thinking that is understandable, acceptable, and right for them is like them. And those who are not with them are the ones against them.

If I show my weakness, it can hurt me. This belief is related to an internal vulnerability, an Achilles heel, or a life needle hidden in an egg. Obviously, large armor hides something particularly sensitive and vulnerable. Addiction makes the 8s powerless, so they can only open up to the closest people they trust.

Risk:

Control. He wants to always manage the situation and have control in his hands. There are fears that someone might take it over. To avoid this, take more responsibility than is necessary in that situation. Control gives a sense of security. However, they are not interested in dominance among the weak, they need to have authority among the strong. As a result, they often provoke those around them to highlight their personal qualities.

Type 8 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 5 (Observer): Withdraws as if stepping into a shell to regain strength and develop a new strategy.

To 2 (Assistant): Becomes empathetic, kind, and benevolent. Trying to help even the unrecognizable.

Personal improvement:

Recognize and accept your vulnerability and emotional needs.
Work with negative feelings (especially resentment) towards other people, and living in general.
Develop empathy and the ability to build equal relationships.
Learn to acknowledge and accept your vulnerability.
Work:

Best where there are many challenges where you need to take the initiative. Takes the lead. It is necessary to move forward, not to avoid responsibilities. Freedom of decision-making is very important, it does not tolerate control, so it often builds its own business or occupies influential positions. Financial security is very important. More empathetic 8s can be great teachers or medics.

Leadership:

Strong, domineering. Can empower people, distribute tasks, inspire. He has a lot of ideas and ambitions. Goal Orientation. Little empathy. Develops systems, procedures and rules. Unwilling to compromise. Categorical, puts pressure.

Parenting:

These are parents in whose arms everyone feels safe and loved. They motivate, support, encourage self-belief and pursue goals, but also require obedience. Always ready to defend, teach, and help if you see determination in a child’s eyes. Respect, trust and willpower will be the core values ​​instilled.

Childhood:

8s are usually strong, strong children who learn to stand up for themselves and defend the weaker, the most abused, or the wrongly accused. And the defendants can be friends, animals and even adults. Truth and justice are very important to 8-thugs, so they boldly fight for it against anyone. He knows what he wants and what he really doesn’t want. They are stubborn and unyielding to any threats. Feels good in your body, has a lot of energy.

Wings:

8w7 – Provocator. Strong, smart, motivating. Not afraid to take risks in implementing your vision. Communicative, can be fun and interactive, but not to please others. Has many interests. Confident, disciplined, pursues personal goals. Can be manipulative.

8w9 – Diplomat. Maintains leadership with its stability, thoughtful methods, control. Protects your territory. Caring, less aggressive, likes a calm, clear steady lifestyle. More introverted.

Instincts:

Self-protection instinct – Satisfaction. Strong, hard-working, ready to survive even the most difficult situations. They are a guarantor of security and a support for many as they take on the role of guardian. Tolerance is not their strength, especially when some personal needs are not being met. Then they just pick up what they need without grief, guilt or apologies. Not very talkative, but takes and arranges any affairs.

Sexual Instinct – Management. Provocative and passionate, likes to be the center of attention, managing people and situations. They are determined to serve an honorable purpose, but want to do so only from a managerial or central position. They often break the rules, are not afraid to look bad, even encourage such vision. At the same time, they are very sensitive and emotional. Intolerant of weak, slow or foolish people.

Social instinct – Solidarity. Exercising their power and influence in the service of others usually defends their interests more than their own. Loyal, protects and cares for their own. Sensitive misconduct and unfair social norms, or abuse of power. While they can be rebellious and persistent, they seem less aggressive, more often show the gentle side, accept the opinions of others, but try not to be vulnerable. (Contrast type)

Famous people and characters:

Napoleon Bonaparte, Marlon Brando, Sandra Bullock, Richard Burton, Al Capone, Fidel Castro, Winston Churchill, Russell Crowe, Danny DeVito, Indira Gandhi, George Gurdjieff, Ernest Hemingway, Saddam Hussein, Billy Idol, Courtney Love, Sean Penn, Pablo Picasso , Pink, Queen Latifah, Mickey Rourke, Frank Sinatra, Socrates, Denzel Washington, Dalia Grybauskaitė.

Beliefs:

The most important thing is harmony. 9 cannot tolerate conflict, it even causes them physical discomfort. So in every way he tries to avoid or mitigate it. It empathizes with each person’s needs, so they see a more complete picture of the situation, which in turn allows them to make a better decision. They are ready to sacrifice their wishes and opinions for the sake of peace. It doesn’t take responsibility for not being guilty if something goes wrong.

Not me the most important thing here. It is difficult for 9 people not only to have their own opinion, but also to recognize their wants and needs. It is much easier and more comfortable for them to connect with another person, to feel their needs, than to try to satisfy their own. They think that expressing their own needs can disrupt harmony.

80% of problems are solved by themselves, so it is not worth wasting energy. The 9s have a special approach to time. They have enough time, so they don’t see the point in rushing somewhere. It feels even in their speech and movements. They like to put everything off, especially if it has to do with something unpleasant. Sometimes they are right and the problems actually solve themselves, but sometimes it causes even bigger problems. Postponement also applies to problems in relationships.

Risk:

Internal sanatorium. If 9s fail to create peace and harmony around themselves, then they tend to move away from their thoughts and emotions to their inner sanatorium. There they can hide, regain strength, enjoy good memories. However, this accumulates unresolved problems on the outside, and suppressed negative emotions that once erupt with uncontrollable force.

Type 9 stress and comfort.

Stress / Comfort:

To 6 (Skeptic / Loyalist): Starts designing worst case scenarios. Becomes irritable, untrustworthy and accusing.

To 3 (Reacher): Becomes very productive, raises energy levels, begins to feel pleasure while working.

Personal improvement:

Understand and fulfill your pressing needs.
Restore the relationship with your vitality, through a sense of anger and integration.
Develop the ability to be in contact with negative feelings.
To develop the ability to be in a relationship without merging with another person, to maintain healthy boundaries.
Work:

Great listeners, objective, avoid conflicts. Good diplomats or mediators. The most suitable in the areas of services and assistance. A relationship with people, a peaceful and harmonious environment is very important. Can be very persistent and effective if you discover your favorite area.

Leadership:

Consistent, not distracting and not deviating from the goal. Likes clear structures, follows them. Seeks harmony, seeks compromises. Perfectly agrees with people, knows how to understand and reassure them. Delays work and decisions. May be stubborn.

Parenting:

It allows children to be all kinds, because for these parents, patience and tolerance are enough even in the most stressful situations. They know how to listen, allow themselves to make decisions, and feel great about talking to a child to complete all the necessary tasks. Meanwhile, small whims do not really get involved in conflicts, because everything will be resolved in one way or another.

Childhood:

9s are very good, cute, calm and slow kids. They say “where you leave, you will find”. They can play alone for a long time, dream, watch TV without inventing any pranks. They also have fun with friends, only they should not be very naughty or mushy. For 9 people, the most important thing is to have a peaceful, friendly environment. These children do not want conflict, so they often give in and succumb to the influence of others. It blends in with others so that sometimes they no longer know what they really want.

Wings:

9w8 – Arbitrator. Looking for ways to keep the peace, wants a peaceful solution to conflicts. Stubborn. Impulsive anger may erupt. Wants comfort, favorite routine. More extraverted and more communicative.

9w1 – Dreamer. Creative, loves order and harmony. Wants to live in an ideal world. Good teachers know how to convey information. Does not show or acknowledge anger. Pleasant, more introverted, conservative, may seem detached.

Instincts:

Self-defense instinct – Appetite. Focuses on amenities and meeting physical needs. Focusing on activities such as eating, reading or sleeping. Such behavior is usually a strategy to escape, forget, or comfort yourself. Peace and time are important to them, so they can be irritable and stubborn when others upset their balance or create problems.

Sexual Instinct – Fusion. Merging with other important people is like a strategy to help them feel full and comfortable. They tend not to notice their desires, even to abandon plans and needs, and to adapt to others ’agendas or habits. These are cute, gentle, relationship-oriented, empathetic people who take over the feelings and opinions of loved ones without realizing it.

Social Instinct – Participation. These are friendly, sincere, fun people. They are involved everywhere, often taking on the role of mediator, supporting, putting a lot of effort into doing what is needed to be accepted. That way they feel important and necessary. He puts his needs aside so as not to become a burden to others, and sacrifices to meet the needs of the group. In an effort to keep other people happy, they often ignore their pain or stress and risk becoming workaholics. (Contrast type)

Famous people and characters:

Jennifer Aniston, Patricia Arquette, David Beckham, Ingrid Bergman, Kevin Costner, Matt Damon, Dalai Lama, Placido Domingo, Audrey Hepburn, Chris Isaak, Carl Jung, Grace Kelly, Lisa Kudrow, Abraham Lincoln, Uma Thurman, Renee Zellweger, Katinas Leopold.